Studies have shown that only meaningful to set your own goals, will be more likely to achieve.
Want to know what you want is often the most difficult step. what do you want? The answer will include many internal and external factors. "Keep nature" and the family sometimes, work responsibilities conflict. Your goal should be formulated can induce some balance in your life, both personally let you happy, but also beneficial to their loved ones love.
Ask yourself some questions, such as "I want to give the family / society / world what?" Or "I want to get the increase in what areas?" These issues can help you locate.
If your goal is currently not specific enough, it does not matter, then you can further refine.
Row sequence. After a series of good think you want to do, you need to prioritize. Each focused on a goal. If concerns multiple targets at once, that is unrealistic.
The goal is divided into three categories:
The first level.
The Second level.
The Third level.
The first level is the goal for you the most important goal, you naturally want to achieve things. The importance of second and third-level goals inferior to the first level, they may be more specific and limitations.
For example, the first level goals might include "improved health, spend more time with his family." The second-level goals might include "keep the room tidy, learn how to surf." The third level of the target may have "learned to knit and do more housework."
Target specific. Set specific and realistic goals. Studies have shown that the specific objectives will increase the probability of success, but also make you happier. Try to be specific, refined the big goal into smaller goals.
Ask yourself some questions. How you need to do to achieve the goal? Who help you need? Your goal should be divided into several stages to achieve?
For example, "more healthy" this goal much too vague, is not conducive. And "improve the diet, more exercise," a little better, but still not specific enough.
"Eat three fruits and vegetables, exercise three times a week." The goal specific enough, which will help to achieve.
But also to develop concrete and feasible measures. Example, in order to achieve the three objectives of fruits and vegetables per day, should bring some healthy snacks to work? Next should eat when eating the fruit, do not order fried food? As for sports, whether it should go to the gym more, more to the perimeter for a walk? Depending on your goals, come up with specific and feasible strategies.
If you achieve the overall objective is divided into several stages, and that the deadline for each stage is when? Example, run a marathon, you have to develop each stage of running away, step by step.
Example, if your goal is to buy a big house, you would turn it into several milestones. You have to save money, improve credit, increase revenue. Write milestones and concrete steps to achieve each goal.
Write down the target. Write clearly, specifically, including the expected date of goals. Written on paper will make the target feel more real. The goal you often see in a single place. This will make your stay motivated
With a positive wording. Positive words to spur you achieve your goals, such as "eat more fruits and vegetables," not to write "forbidden to eat junk food."
The target quantization. How can we know that the target has been achieved? If your goal is to move into the new house, when you sign the lease contract or proof to show that property realized. Some goals are not easy to quantify, is not convenient to determine whether has been achieved. You should be able to set quantifiable targets.
Example :- you can remember how to sing a song and sing it perfectly. You can sing and play musical instruments. You can learn a new movement. Quantifiable goals give you a sense of accomplishment and help you achieve bigger goals.
Expand thinking, come up with various ways to achieve goals. Is there a different path? Thinking three minutes, you can think of are written down, no matter how silly it sounds. Suppose your goal is shaping, you can try fitness, adjust diet, walking, riding to work on their own cooking instead of eating fast food or climbing stairs instead of the elevator. There are various ways to achieve the goal. You choose which of several?
Setting goals within their scope. You can only control their own behavior, can not control the behavior of others. "Become a rock star" is not a feasible goal, since achieving this goal requires a response and support of others, can not your personal decision. The "established the band, engage in active practice until become outstanding musicians" is able to rely on your efforts to achieve.
Learn to focus on the behavior of individuals contributes to better cope with setbacks. Because you know the way will encounter some uncontrollable factors.
Sometimes the goal is the process. Example, "Senator" can not on its own efforts, you can not control the reactions of others. If you do not succeed, even if you will feel very hard to fail. The "run for office" is an achievable goal, even if you did not win the election, you can tell that he has the best efforts.
Part 2: Start efforts
Get started today towards the goals. The first step is often the hardest. Even if you thought a good concrete steps should immediately begin efforts. Do some things close to the target. Then you will know that they have embarked on a successful journey. every little progress will motivate you closer to the target.
Example, your goal is to "healthy diet", you can immediately go to the grocery store to purchase fruits and vegetables. Clean up junk food at home. Web search with healthy recipes. These little things are easy to operate, add up.
If you want to learn a new skill, we must now begin to contact. If you want to become a good musician, he picked up a guitar to practice basic chords. Read the Getting Started book. No matter what the goal is, you can start trying now.
Compliance plan. If you follow the above mentioned steps to do, you should have a good step to achieve the goal envisaged. Now is the time to put into practice.
Example, your goal is to buy a three-bedroom, then you can go take a look at real estate sites that match your criteria apartment. Calculate the down payment. Start saving money for the down payment. Embark on the required loan to improve credit.
Imagine the scene after goals. Studies have shown that this can make you expect better performance. There are two forms: the desired results and expected process. To achieve the goal, requires a combination of two forms.
Results expected: Imagine the scene after goals. Try to specific details. What would you feel? Who will receive the congratulations? Is not it great sense of accomplishment? Very happy?
Expected process: specific steps you should take. Example, your goal is to become a small business owner, how do you think step by step to achieve. Imagine yourself writing plan, loans and attract investors and other scenarios.
Allows the brain to process the expected future successfully incorporated into memory. Psychologists say, it makes you feel as if already achieved the goal, because your brain has been imagined by some satisfaction.
Target column. Go over every day at least. After getting up in the morning and before going to sleep at night go over the target. Think about your day and do what goals related efforts.
When you achieve a goal target on the list, do not completely remove it. But should put it "has achieved the goal of" list. Sometimes, we are too concerned about the goals are not achieved, forgetting what has been achieved. Success has been achieved to remind myself to give you more power.
Request guidance. Find a person has achieved this goal. Ask them how they experience and lessons learned. Listen carefully, and more consultation.
Just like in school, you can not be the high number of self-study. If you can get a high number of people proficient guidance, you will be easier to overcome obstacles, and people celebrate when you succeed. Good teacher will like you to feel the joy of your success.
advertising
Part 3: Tackling the challenges
Learn "false hope syndrome." If you've set New Year goals, which may no longer strangers. Psychologists call this symptom is divided into three parts:
setting goals;
difficulties;
give up goals.
False hope syndrome usually occurs when you are expecting immediate rewards. For example, you want to shape the body, two weeks after the motion has not seen a significant change, you begin to frustration. Set clear milestones and time frames allow you to avoid the actual expectations.
This symptom will appear when the enthusiasm faded. Example, you buy a guitar learned some chords, you start to learn guitar extreme enthusiasm. However, when you need to practice every day, practicing the calluses, encountered difficult to learn chords. You start to lose morale. Decomposition of goals and progress to help you celebrate phased maintain enthusiasm.
Challenges as opportunities for growth experience. Studies have shown that, can learn from the experience of the challenges are more assertive.If you put obstacles as failure to penalize yourself, you will be too focused on the past and see the future.
Studies have shown that people do not achieve the goal of less than obstacles to abandon the goal of people you meet. The difference is how to treat setbacks. Are you able to learn from setbacks in the next how to succeed?
Perfectionism can also hinder you experience challenges as opportunities for growth. If you set myself high standards, your sense of accomplishment will be reduced.
Do not berate yourself. No one is perfect, everyone makes mistakes, will be challenged.
Research shows that positive attitude more conducive to learning and adaptation, so it should not be too tangled mistakes and shortcomings. The next time you berate yourself because of failure, to remind yourself that every failure can provide the experience, although the process
